One Girls Journey to Freedom
It’s very difficult to deal with feelings of jealously and insecurity, in a relationship. And it’s no different when the players are polyamorus, because learning to keep jealousy down to a bare minimum roar is entirely attractive to the ongoing functionality of a poly dynamic. That is a couple, or three or more engaged in a poly lifestyle.
Polyamory is also known as non-monogamy, an often misunderstood and sometimes sexual identity that simply means “loving more than one”. This may or may not include sex, there are in fact, a-sexual people who are also polyamorous. They do not have sex, they LOVE.
To break it down:
Poly = many
Amorous = love
So often a polyamorous couple has multiple casual or committed lovers. In most cases everyone knows the score and they are caring, committed lovers who want more than one partner and inform one another when they have an opportunity to play or have sexual relations.
WE all have the right to sex, it is not immoral or inherently bad to have more than one partner. The immorality of yesteryear does not stand up to the light of scrutiny in today’s world and only people who are judgmental would deem to press their prejudicial morays onto individuals who choose love over hate. We’ve come too far toward enlightenment to go back to Victorian standards, and then cheat on our spouses behind another’s backs. Many must move past their own self-imposed judgments in order to live free to love who they wish.
So a wife decides she wants to take a lover because her husband has been withholding intimacy for years. Is she bad? Should she go without for the rest of her years? Does she suspect he is fulfilling his appetite elsewhere?
What does she choose?
How does she tell her husband, is he the type that doesn’t want to know?
What’s such a girl to do for sex?
She’ll have sex.
So she chooses a very sexy guitarist she happens to see at a club and Surprise! He’s into it. He a poly guy, whose “married” to the woman he’s loved for 2 decades, but his heart and body is open to LOVE.
SINCE she (the horny woman who hasn’t had sex in years) is already into Him, there’s no stopping them. She’s all about giving pleasure and she gives. A lot. She also receives the best fucking she’s ever had and she grows some feelings about the man. A lot of strong feelings.
Now she has an opportunity to practice curing jealousy in a poly triangle. There are dozens of web pages with info on curing jealousy in a poly dynamic.
She knows she is good enough, but she reminds herself regardless. Jealously is borne out of loneliness and insecurity so she makes sure she has plenty of activities and plenty of self esteem building interactions and activities. Jealousy can be like an unreachable itch so she talks about it, writes about it and remembers He wants Her too.
She continues to build up her own sense of self and treats herself with an abundance of self care.
This is her cure for jealousy in a poly relationship. She is thrilled to find a way thru jealousy to the love (and sex) she always wanted and she becomes very, very happy.